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My daughter and grandchildren are abused everyday. My daughter has a mental illness and if she is not on her medicine she does not think clearly. Some doctors think she is schizophrenic and others say she is majorly depressed and delusional. Either way she has a rough life. Her husband is an asshole. He yells at and curses her and the three kids everyday. He grew up in an abusive family and does not know that it is not normal. That is no excuse for my daughter and grandchildren to have to suffer everyday. It is not their fault that he had a bad childhood. He has put it in my daughters head that i am no good, That I don’t care about her and the kids. They deny him hitting them but there have been little things said that makes me wonder if they are just afraid to admit it to anyone. I am going to get the kids away from there and hope and pray that my daughter will follow them. Unfortunantly I can not force her to leave even though she is mentally unstable at this time. I have talked to some family preservation workers and they are going to try to help me get the ball rolling. I can not stand to see them suffer any longer. I have tried to talk to my daughter and her dead beat husband but I cant get them to understand what is happening to these kids, I am getting no where. My son-in-law is out of control. I also have very good reason to believe that he is doing a lot of drugs and that he fools around on my daughter but he has her so brain washed that unless I can get her away from him and keep her on her medicine and get some counseling I dont think I will be able to get her to understand. I feel like my hands are tied sometimes and it is driving me crazy. I know in my heart that once she is totally away from him and she gets her thoughts together and sees what he has been doing to her and the kids that she will never go back to him again. she was always a very good mother and put her kids ahead of everything else. since she has gotten sick she lives in her own little world part of the time and does not sem to notice what he is doing to them, how much he is hurting them. I know they are all afraid of him and it breaks my heart to see how they have to live. I am determined I will not give up until my daughter and those kids have a better (normal) life.
Oh gosh, I have been emotionally abused for the past 5 years. I gave up on my marriage that I could have saved in hindsight, for my abuser too. My abuser was lovely at first. Most attentive. Bought me expensive presents, promised me the world – flowers, phone calls, texts, love……..then gradually the texts stopped coming, then he said he was too busy. But if I didn’t call him, he told me that I didn’t love him enough. He would then promise to come and visit, but would never turn up, leaving me sitting indoors all night wondering if he was coming or not.
If I said I was going to go out, he would get arsy and snub me for days – so I was too scared to go out for fear of upsetting him. If he stayed with me, he would block my car in, so I could not get out in the morning if I needed to.
He would keep his mobile phone on his person at all times. He told me I was not allowed to talk to my ex husband with regards our children and yet would blatently then tell me how he had been talking on the phone for 45 minutes to his ex.
Almost every present I bought him he did not even bother to open. His christmas presents from a few years ago are still unopened. He never opened cards from me either until say the next day.
When I had done some decorating that I was proud of, he would not even take a few seconds to have a look. When he did, later on, he belittled my work.
He kept making promises that he would take me out, but failed to meet any of those promises.
This summer I eventually got fed up as my children were also being let down, so I took my smallest lad camping for two nights (on the nights when my ‘man’ didn’t bother coming down anyway) and when I returned home and called him to let him know we were back safe and sound he accused me of going on holiday with another man. And he finished it there and then without my even being able to protest. He’s not answered his phone to me since. Im annoyed because he has had the last say, as per usual.
My opinion never counted as I was not allowed to have one. If I ever wanted to talk about anything he would simply go to sleep on the sofa (or pretend to sleep)
I was SO in love with this man……. and tolerated his behaviour all that time in the hope that he loved me back. I guess he didn’t and perhaps my going camping was a sign that he had lost control of me.
I think about him though. After all such a controlling person has a huge affect on ones life. They take it over totally. He used to know exactly where I was – he would do nothing for me, and yet I would drop everything in an instant, to say, drive up to his house to walk his dog when he was at work…… when I asked him if he could take my dog out, you can guess what the answer was!?
He never ever phoned me from his landline. Only ever his mobile too. So I never really knew where he was. Just trusted him.
I can’t believe that his family let him do this, and can only feel sorry now for his ex girlfriend who has his daughter. He used to say she was mad and nasty. Well, if this is the way he treated her??? I was never allowed to talk to her or meet her – and in fact he kept me a secret from her until last year, when my children became friends with his daughter on facebook and they told her who they were!
Still.
At the very least I can talk with my ex husband again now!!! Who is nice and rather normal!
I have only just plucked up the courage to end a 2 year long abusive relationship. It is tough as i still have emotional ties with the person in question who i also the father to my baby son.
It all started in a very suttle way really, with negative comments made in ways of “jokes”… i did pay attention because i was too in love with him to want to see anything wrong with what was being said, although when i think back, it was quite clear that we had issues right from the beginning of our relationship. Then i began to feel left out of his life, being treated as the bit on the side: i would always make time for him but he wouldn’t. Again, i put it down to his busy work schedule (he is self-employed) and erratic time-table. Yet again…. making excuses for him to allow hurting my feelings on a regular basis and making me feel worthless… but i loved him still….
Then came the pregnancy, during which he didn’t support me and left me to struggle; the birth which as we anticipated was very difficult… he went to eat and sleep instead of staying by my side and, we our baby finally ready to come home in broad winter and after 4 days in special care unit, he didn’t turn up to take us home…. he didn’t phone until 5 days later. I came home to a freezing cold flat, empty fridge and feeling the worst i could possibly feel.
I took him back into my life because i was convinced that “I” big “I” could surely make it work! we now had a baby together and i wanted “it” to work so it had to. How much more could i be fooling myself????
He came back of course (when he felt like having sex) and i just welcomed him each and everytime because i felt so happy to see my baby with his father…. i wanted the perfect picture, at all costs…. i felt that if i gave up on the relationship, i would be a failure for quitting….. and quitting is not something i do….
He began to make me doubt myself in my own abilities as a mother, housekeeper, nothing i did was good enough, nothing i said was good enough, he even put words in my mouth. The list is endless…
The last time i saw him, he came to “help” me with the shopping and as we got back home and i was feeding the baby, he made me a coffee which he drugged. I layed on the floor, unable to get up and managed to get the phone to call emergency services. He just stood in the hallway, looking at me with his arms crossed, leaving the baby alone in the dinning room. When the police and ambulance came, he rushed outside to meet them. I could hear him faintly describing me as a horrible woman who was doing everything in her power to stop him from seeing his son, that i was abusive, manipulative, a drunk, promiscuious being….. i was fighting to keep awake, i was petrified, not knowing what was happening to me and my body. He further said to the police that i had mental health issues, that i was under a lot of stress and basically “loosing it”. I spent 8 hours in Accident and Emergency and as the drugs wore off, was able to go home to my children who were being looked after by my neighbour.
He never phoned to ask how i was, he just went home to his place as though nothing happened. He only called 2 weeks later to ask to see his son.
This ordeal was the best thing that could have happened in a sense…. i had to receive the biggest lesson to see clearly just how far the man would go to get what he wanted. I know his intentions are to take the little one away from me but this will never happen. He is now having to go to a supervised contact centre to visit his son and this is just how it will have to be from now on. I have regained that strength which i thought had left me so long ago. I am now able to stand up to him and not let him manipulate me and play with my life anymore. I know it is early day but i feel greater energy each day that passes without him putting me down or hurting me the way he use to.
I now feel SO liberated and can’t wait for the future!
Abusers prey on women that are going through possible rough times. I met my recent abuser during divorce from emotionally abusive husband. The constant attention after being ignored for years allowed him to take over me. Recently was able to finally get the more recent verbal/emotional abuser out of my life after way too long of giving chance after chance. He went out with another woman for one week. She contacted me – he scared her to death after one date. She said she threatened to call police on him, so he stopped bothering her! Sad thing is this woman is 15 years younger than me and obviously has good self-esteem and sense to run him off quickly! The signs are obvious – do not get entangled.